Many people would like to see their situation improve, but they are seldom willing to make any improvement to themselves. Many just don’t realize that their environment are, to a degree, a product of their own actions (or lack there off).
During the month of June, we discussed Limiting Beliefs In the Inner circle – my monthly dose of business coaching. And here are the top 3 messages I took away.
You can click on the link below to view the video, or if you’re more of a reader, you can read all about it below the link.
Most of you will know that I have been working with a business coach over the past year on my entrepreneurial journey. Every single month we have a topic we discuss. We get together every week when we can ask questions and bounce ideas of Sandi. It’s really been an eye-opening experience for me.
It was almost as if it was an extension of what we hear every single Sunday in church. I know it sounds weird. I would get to church and hear a fantastic sermon. I would get into the inner circle on a Monday and it’s almost as if the two of them spoke to one another. She takes the information that I’ve heard on a Sunday and translate it into practical business decisions every single day.
For me, it’s just been a miraculous journey.
Our topic in June was around Limiting Beliefs and here’s what I took away from the teachings.
Never Assume You Are Ok
She started off the session talking about judging people. The first thing that went through my mind, is “I’m ok. I like people. I’ve forgiven my Mom and my parents”. Thank God I had the opportunity to tell my Mom that before she died.
The biggest mistake I’ve made though, was to think “I’m ok” because at that point, your mind already shuts down. I realized when I listened to the recording again, I had people that I had to forgive. I was judgmental towards these folks. I didn’t like the way they treated me. I didn’t like the way they spread messages or lies about me and I had to go back and forgive them. And now I’m making it my mission to pray for them every single day. It doesn’t mean I have to become best friends with them. It doesn’t mean I have to hug them every day. They will not be necessarily the people that I invite into my “huddle” – the group of people that lifts you up and brings out the best in you every single day.
So often, we think it’s the big things that happened in our lives, that we must forgive, when it’s so often just the small little things that happens every single day. You don’t realize how much judgement you harbor in your heart for the small little things that crosses your path daily. Once you get to a point where you start to talk about it, start to tell other people about it, alarm signs should go off and you need to get rid of the resentment and judgments in your heart.
Prepare yourself to be stretched
Nobody ever became successful by having it easy. They had to work extremely hard to get where they are today. We know for the most part we are going to be stretched.
We must prepare for the fact that we know we will be stretched. A lot of times we neglect the preparation process. We know it’s going to be a hard journey; we know we might lie awake at night; we know things are not going to be easy. And yet, so many people are not willing to prepare for it.
What are you doing to prepare for the moment you get there and you must fight the battle? No National Army pitch up at the war with no preparation. You are going to be caught off-guard if you walk into the war, without any preparation.
You know you must prepare. Take the necessary steps to prepare. That means spiritually, physically. Whatever you need to do to prepare for that.
The preparation is not necessarily the hard part. Do the preparation every single day, mindfully, with intention, knowing where you are going, to prepare for the situation where you are going to be stretched out of your comfort zone.
If you do the preparation consistently every single day, that is the easy part. That when you have time to think about what you’re going to do; you have time to ensure you have the right kit with you. It gives you the opportunity to plan everything out so that you can go into the situation where you will be stretched, prepared.
I started lifting weights about 2-3 years ago. At 45 I’m in the best shape of my life. It’s not like I walked into the gym and started lifting heavy weights. Many months would go by, where the weights would only increase with 2kg or even 1 kg. It’s a work in progress every single day.
So, you cannot expect to just jump in and win the war, without the preparation.
Money is NOT the evil of all things
This has been a work in progress for me over the past few months – my mindset about money. Money is not the evil of all things. Your entire environment and how you grow up, programs your mind to think about money a certain way.
Money is only the evil of all things when money controls your mind and you do not steward the money effectively. I also had to work through this mindset, especially when you have a job and get a salary. If you cannot steward your salary the way God intended you to steward your money, you cannot be expected to be trusted with more than what you’re currently getting.
Money is not the thing that got you into the situation that you are now. The reason why you are still struggling with money is because you either decided not to make any decision or decided not to make better decisions about your money and how you steward it.
Money is there to steward the Kingdom of God. Money is there to alleviate poverty. Money is there so that it can be used to help other people. The one main thing I will continue to work on, is for money not to control my mind.
Money starts to control your mind when you start to think “O gosh, no I don’t’ have money for this” or you tell your children there is no money for anything. I’m not saying you should go out and go on a spending spree, but there are different ways you can make your children understand this is not the right time now and there are other priorities to be taken care off.
Stop telling yourself these lies that you don’t have money for anything.
Start to think about money as a tool to bless other people
Work on your mindset every single day, as if your life depends on it. You owe it to yourself.