It’s clear that you have a hard time letting go of the guilt and shame when you feel you’ve failed yourself when it comes to making healthy choices.
The emotions you experience when you indulge, is not something you can control unless you fix it. Stop trying to control it with will power. Carbs and sugar changes your brain chemistry. It is a vicious cycle. You want to fix your brain chemistry, to get rid of cravings and the emotions, but if you keep on eating the way you do, you won’t be able to fix it. You cannot make yourself FEEL better about yourself, without fixing what you eat.
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When you start out on a lifestyle change journey, you need to rely on practical steps you need to take, until it becomes a habit. You want to fix your eating, so that you can fix your mind, but you want to fix your mind, so that you can fix your eating. And how do you know what those practical steps should be? You research, you learn, you investigate, you do courses and you practice.
“You need to make sure there are not any temptations around you that will cause you to get into trouble. “
At this point in your life, you have no self-control to stay away from sugar and junk food. Start at your home. If it’s not in your home, you cannot indulge in it. If you have a household where you need to “keep things for your husband and the kids”, you need to sit them down and have a serious conversation with them. This is not about their 5-minute pleasures anymore. This is literally life and death.
This is YOU changing your health for the better, to ensure you can get healthier and live medication free. If they want their “pleasures”, they can get in the car, drive somewhere, get their pleasure, eat it and come back home. So, if you have stuff in your kitchen or your house, that’s going to cause you to get into trouble, you need to get rid of it!
The more so you need to take a stand, if you are making the buying decisions when it comes to food.
“You want to grow old with your loved ones? Then ACT like someones how wants to do everything in their power to live a healthy life. “
Secondly, you MUST plan out your meals at least 2-3 days in advance. AND make sure you have a clear back-up plan. Don’t make eating decisions on the go. I.e. if you have not prepared for the day, you will make a quick decision to get something and it will most likely be the wrong decision.
A back-up plan can be leftovers that’s in the freezer, or just bacon and eggs and vegetables. Have staple food in your house at all times.
You must get the temptations out of the way. Yes, you will get to a point where you can resist the temptation, but now – at least for the next 90 days – you will not be able to do it.
Addiction has the same effects as it has on an alcoholic. You have an alcoholic in the house, you would never stock up your fridge with alcohol. If you have a substance abuser in the house, you will never stock up on drugs from the chemistry. You will try to keep the things away from them as far as you can.
You need to realize you have to do the same here. Keep the things that gets you into trouble, away from you as far as you can.
If you need to bake a cake, and you are not willing to bake a sugar-free cake (btw, they are flippen delicious), outsource the baking of the cake.
If someone asks you to bring something to eat to a social event, YOU make the decision what you’re going to make. You are taking something for YOU to eat. You are not taking drinks and treats based on what they might like. They are either invested in your health and your journey, or they are not. If they are not, you should get other friends, or stay away from family for at least a few weeks.
If it is loved ones living with you in the house that gives you grief, you need to have a serious talk with them. When there’s an intervention for an alcoholic, the counsellors have serious talks with the family members.
Why do you not treat food addiction as the serious condition that it is? You need to acknowledge that you cannot do it on your own and be willing to practice what you should do, in order to get better at it.
If you want to get better at cooking, you will practice it. If you want to get better at making healthy lifestyle choices and cooking healthy meals, you need to practice it. There’s just no way around it. There’s very little things in life where you can just pitch up and participate and claim the victory, without any practice.